So, I have wrote and re-wrote this post a million times over this last week or so and have yet to press the dreaded publish button. I have been agonising over how to articulate what I am trying to say, but today I’ve decided to go it and press the publish button. Normally most of my stories have some sort of comedy value, and if a post doesn’t flow after the first few attempts then I normally scrap it, or keep it in my drafts until I can get my creative juices flowing again. But this post is something that I really want to share and it’s a bit more from the heart.
What I have been struggling with is this; I want to share this story but I’m not too sure of the best way of doing it. One the one hand, if I keep it vague, it might resonate with more people and it also protects my friend who I want to talk about a little, as I’m not sure how much she would want me to share. However, if I’m too vague, no one will have to foggiest what I am talking about let alone trying to say.
So, I’m going to try and do something in the middle of the two. Please bear with me, I can assure you there is a point to this! I also just want to say that I am not talking about mental health issues or depression, or saying that people who are suffering should just get on with it. I am literally just talking about my bad day and how i managed to make myself feel better and if this can help someone else, then I am glad I shared.
The last few weeks have been, well, not all singing and dancing and full of roses. Everybody’s lives have ups and downs, but, I guess, if I’m completely honest, I have never really struggled to get what I want in life. Yes, of course things don’t always go my way, and I’m not saying it always come easy, but I’ve never really not got what I’ve wanted in some form or other. These last few weeks have been quite trying and there has been a lot going on. To be truthful, it got me down quite a bit when things didn’t quite work out how I wanted them. (I actually burst into tears in my office which was a little embarrassing to say the least). I ended up getting my eyelash extension but back on as I was fed up of having panda eyes. (Any excuse, eh!)
Anyway, I was speaking to a friend who asked me how things were going and I was rambling on about how I don’t know what to do with my life and maybe I should open up my cupcake café after all and when I came up for breath and asked her how things were, she announced that she had some really bad news that week. I couldn’t believe how wrapped up in my own world I had been and that I hadn’t even thought to ask how things were with her first. Now, this friend has experience more than her fair share of heartbreak over the last few months and I have never heard her complain once. She is literally so positive and thoughtful for everyone else. She is my inspiration.
It really shocked me back into reality and gave me a huge dose of perspective. I know that when you have a bad day, there is always someone who has had a worse day, and of course, it is all relative. Your bad day is important to you at that moment and you should all be allowed to be happy or sad or whatever emotion you have at any time. But oh my days, life really does give some people lemons, and you can either become bitter, or, I guess, in the case of my friend, get on with it and make lemonade.
I have taken this attitude of stamping all over the lemons I had, and I have made some pretty sweet lemonade. And do you know what, I feel so much better for it. Life is way too precious and short for letting things get to you, (although I know this is hard, don’t get me wrong, I am not saying for one minute that people can’t be unhappy or angry or hurt or anything like that) but what I am saying is this; If you are having a bad day and you are in a place where you can use your lemons to make lemonade, then give it a go, as you might find it is a far more refreshing taste than the one you had in your life before. It certainly worked for me.